My son is almost 4.5 years old. He is the baby. My two older girls spoiled me, they are daddy’s girls. It’s not that I don’t have a relationship with them, it’s just nowhere near what they have with their daddy. And I hate to sound like Horrible Mother of the Century I just am not a cuddly, please hang all over me kind of mother. Then along came little man. The only boy, the 3rd baby, the LAST baby. For some reason he decided to cling to me. He was the baby that I struggled with emotionally while pregnant (I was not happy about being pregnant). I had some of the worst PPD after him, but by far no means worst than anyone else….just the worst I had personally dealt with. And of course I have personal space issues. And yet he clung to me. And who can really tell a newborn to “get off of me, I can’t breathe”? I might have my issues but I am not complete cold hearted bitch either.
Around the time he could talk (about 18 months old) he started this “Don’t leave me momma” thing he does. And it was constant. I couldn’t go to the bathroom without his incessant whining about me “leaving” him. At some point he claimed me as his territory. It became an issue if anyone came near me. Especially his father. It caused major stress. The girls were frustrated. The hubs was frustrated. And everyone blamed me. I did this and I did that. I am sorry but even after 2 kids, the 3rd doesn’t come with a manual….k?
Now the boy is almost to Kindergarten and I worry. He still tells me “don’t leave me” but fortunatley not on any similar level as it was when he was a toddler. Now it’s just when I drop him off at daycare in the mornings. Or anytime I choose to go out with friends in the evening. It’s not as bad but he does pitch a nasty fit if he doesn’t get enough momma during his day. I can go to the bathroom or take a shower no problem. We have come along way in 2 years lol. But I dread Kindergarten. All 3 will be at the same school fortunatley. But the two older ones ride the bus. I could take them but I think I am going to be mean and make the boy ride the bus. Then he can’t spend 20 minutes saying goodbye in the morning. I won’t have to hear “don’t leave me” because he is the one leaving…not me. I just hope that soon he will stop. Then I can write a post about how much I miss him crying “don’t leave me momma”.
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Hopefully this will get better soon, but I have to warn you it might not. I had problems leaving my parents my whole childhood. I even hated leaving home to go to a sleepover. It was pathetic. I hope he gets over his “don’t leave me momma” thing soon so you can write that post about how much you miss it.
Well if he doesn’t I will still love him lol. I think it will just given the progress we have gone through over the last 2 years. Slow but still progress. But I tell ya, he sure as hell will not be living at home when he is 40 years old!
Good luck! & understood on the blame thing. Kalila was never near that clingy to me, but she had that one stage around 7 months or so that most babies go through… My MIL insisted that it was because I stay home and hold her and such. Didn’t help that when she outgrew it she still wouldn’t go to my MIL lol. Thankfully she’s gotten over it and goes to her now.
awww! Funny how kids just have their special personal quirks.