The Positive & The Negative – Witchy Wednesday
I am a big beleiver that attitudes attract certain things. Positive attracts positive things in your life and of course negative attracts the negative. There are exceptions to that rule of course. Alot of it has to do with perception. And one cannot be positive all the time nor have positivity in their life all the time. But when things are going particularly rough or very well I think back on my attitude the few days prior I usually find a correlation. This week so far things have been wonderfully well at work. My attitude has been pretty positive at work. I walk in prepared to take on the workload, which never dwindles at this time of year, and I take all problems in stride and try not to take things personal. As a result I have had a somewhat smooth week. A few issues have arose but I don’t let it make me feel bad and I have been able to work through them just fine. Now at home it can be different. I have days where I stress too much about being around the hubs and as a result the evening is usually an unpleasant event. On days where I stick with being a positive person, I can let the things that bother me most slide off my back. It isn’t that I ignore them, I just place focus on my goals on how to fix the situation instead of focusing on what it is he is doing to piss me off, how often he does it, and how I wish I had a magic wand like Harry Potter and I could transform him into a perfect man.
Of course this type of thing isn’t on my mind all the time. It usually takes some long string of events (bad things happen in three’s!) for me to stop and consider what my role has been. And when that happens it is time for me to partake on some meditation.
I am currently on one form of meditation each night. It isn’t for spiritual needs but health. I am a chronic insomniac, we can thank the bipolar issues for that one. But when I am particularly stressed it gets worse. I go from my usual sleep 2-3 hours then wake up for 1 hour to up every hour for an hour with 3:30 – 4:oo am being the start of my day. So about two months ago I brought back a trick I learned when I was first diagnosed at 15. Basically I lay down and clear the mind (a feat within itself). I begin the muscle relaxtion by tightening up my feet for 30 seconds and then release. I move on to the calves, then the thighs, and work all the way up to my head. After that I tighten up every possible muscle and hold for 45 seconds and then release. I can usually fall asleep within 20 minutes after that. Last night I hit a record of falling asleep by 9pm and waking up the first time at 2am. I am quite proud of that! The nights where I sleep all night are the nights I have been drinking. As tempting as that sounds, I can’t bring myself to drink every night for the sake of sleep. Besides, it’s not a good healthy sleep.
For spiritual purposes it’s a bit different. I like my privacy so I have to do this when I know no one will be around. I take notice of other people watching too much and little man would enjoy doing a flying leap across the room onto my back. So I do this one when I can and where I can. My preferred spot is in front of my altar. I don’t always cast a circle, I tend to save that for outdoor rituals, but I do visualize my own sacred space clean of all energy before I step into it. I typically have candles lit, at least a few tealights and a couple votives. I also do burn incense as it gives me something to focus on when my eyes are shut, my favorite right now is cinammon. I then sit, slow my breathing, clear my mind, and then focus on what it is I am wanting. I try to distinguish if it’s really necessary and thus becoming a need or if it’s a frivolous want. If I can distinguish it’s a true need I will carry on. Frivolous wants, imho, are to be dealt with in the mundane life. The needs carryover into our spiritual selves and have a greater impact. These to me are much more important. I continue on working out how to gain this need. What it is that I must do and how I will do it. This can now become a multiple day meditative project. Sometimes I need more time to figure things out. I do rely on the gods to help give me clues on what I should do. For personal reasons I never ask them to outright intervene but I do ask for guidance. At the end (even if I have come to no conclusion) I thank the gods and make an offering outside. Is it me or do the gods really enjoy libations being offered???
Moving along, there are times where I am working through something that has no real solution other than it’s time for me to just let it go. This has never been an easy task for me. When this has arisen I have a specific offering to make to the gods. I will sit and write about the particular feelings and situation that I need to let go of. I pour all of it out until I am completely drained (usually this is physically and mentally). At the end I make quick note of how I am letting it go and will no longer speak of that particular situation. I will then go outside and build a small fire (usually in my grill because I still haven’t gotten around to making a fire pit for sacred use) and toss the pages into the fire and offer them up to the gods. For my Christian readers, this is my equivalent of “let go and let god”. As a side note: for those that cannot do a fire, burying the pages would be just as satisfying.
I do have one other form of “meditation” for the positive and negative. Retail therapy. Ok so it’s not really meditation but it helps. I save it for when I am frustrated with feeling unappreciated or have taken notice that I haven’t bought anything for me in a long while. I also keep the expense down low as the budget is tight and the kids needs do come first. Sometimes it is something as small as a candy bar, other times it’s a new shirt or maybe a new pair of shoes. There are times that we women must do something for ourselves and feel proud. We deserve it!
Ok so what is it that you like to do to attract the positive and work through the negative?
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