Things have been changing around here. The mornings used to be stifling hot as early as 8 am. Now it’s got a nice cool crisp feel to it. Some of our trees are even changing already. Not many and not by much, just a hint. It seems a bit earlier than usual but Autumn Equinox is not that far away. I like this feeling of change in the air. Who knows what it will bring?
Have I mentioned that my parents will be visiting? I don’t think I have as I have still been processing the idea that they will be here. First my mom texted me to say they will be here 9/7 & 9/8. Two days, whew. I can handle two days. But then she said depending on their money situation would depend on how long they stayed. Now I am panicking because maybe they will be here longer than 2 days. And they are coming in the middle of birthday season. My dad’s is 8/28, mine is 9/1, my sister is 9/3, and my middle daughter is 9/15. I can’t help but worry they are here for birthdays. Not a bad thing for the kidlets. But I don’t want anything and nothing is more uncomfortable than to receive a gift you don’t want from people you don’t want giving you a gift. I was raised that a gift is something you politely thank the giver for and accept it. It goes in direct conflict of me feeling like i am taking advantage of some people I don’t get along with well. See the hubs attitude is “well if it’s cash you can go on a shopping trip”. And if it’s cash I probably will and buy the kids things they need. And I do that so I don’t feel like I am just using them for cash. Because that’s what it feels like. I know people say that I should take the time to do something for me but I can’t when it comes from them. Trust me, when my inlaws give me birthday money, I go have a blast spending it.
My other issue with my parents, and well my family in general, is that they insist that I am upset about getting old. Seriously. They were nuts when I turned 30. And somehow they justified it with “you are so upset about being old”. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing! I know when they are here I am going to hear that 35 is old and I am almost 40 and that is old and blah blah blah blah. It’s exhausting just listening to them. I honestly think that my aging bothers them the most and they are having to come to grips with the fact that they are aging.
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Ugh!! So sorry! I totally agree with the gift from someone you don’t want a gift from. My in-laws give me major troubles but still feel the need to give a gift at Christmas (maybe birthday, who knows). They do not know me so it’s always something useless that I send to the thrift store so someone else can find use for it. Same for the kids (their grandkids), they send the wrong sized clothing or toys that are way under their age range. They do not know their grandkids very well. It sort of hurts that there is this feeling, at least for my kids. And, if they say they want to visit, wow do walls go up!! It is always tension-filled. I hate that!!! Good luck!!
I agree. I don’t like accepting unwelcome gifts either. And I’m not afraid of growing old. I’m lucky that no one has insisted I am, or maybe they’re lucky they haven’t. I’m 38, so I’m approaching 40 as well.