Yesterday on the Facebook Fan Page I announced that the fan page will be closed by the end of the year. I know this upset some and I really want people to understand why I need to leave and what is going to occur over the next few months.
Firstly, I have hated Facebook since I joined. I used to do Myspace but Myspace bored the snot out of me and I didn’t visit often. All my peoples were heading over to Facebook and eventually I followed the masses. I had just begun blogging and wasn’t really using Facebook to connect with readers because I am fairly certain I didn’t have any then. I found family that I hadn’t seen in years and chatted with my friends that were there. I hated it. I hated the format. I hated having to constantly check my privacy settings every time an update rolled out. I hated how random people would want me to add them as friends and then got mad when I refused to accept them. I hated the message system. I hated logging in and rarely did it.
I begun to obtain readers and would painstakingly make sure I responded to every comment they left me on the blog. I still try to follow that rule to this day. I may not get all of them but I make an effort to get a majority! Three years ago I went to my first blog conference and I heard about these fan pages. How useful they were and how they would help you work with companies. I didn’t care so much about working with companies but I figured it would be a good way to connect. I built a page and then struggled to get conversations going. Honestly I didn’t put that big of an effort in right away because I still hated the format and still hated logging in. In the last 18 months I caught on to some things that were working. I connected to other pages. I chatted with more and more people every day. I still dreaded having to log in and deal with the format. I had contemplated shutting down the page numerous times. I just didn’t want to lose the contact so I hung in there. I finally broke down and got rid of my personal page. Actually it is still technically there but I have no friends and it’s set to where only friends of friends can request an add. Which pretty much means no one can send in a request. I had to do that in order to keep the page running. But then these changes rolled out yesterday, the biggie being the Top Stories. Whenever I used to log in the first thing I would do is click “newsfeed” so I could see what was going on recently. I have NEVER liked Top Stories because only the most popular of pages (or friends) get listed. Since I follow 700 pages on my fan page, I don’t want to see the coolest 15. The cool kids are cool for a reason and I love them for being so cool but a lot of what I end up sharing comes from the smaller pages. And you won’t see those in the Top Stories. With the changes, every time I close out the browser my Top Stories comes back and is right there taking up space. It wouldn’t be so bad if I could click “newsfeed” like I used to and see everything in real time. The fact that I have to spend 10 minutes to get my newsfeed the way I want it is beyond a minor annoyance. And I have tried all sorts of tricks to alleviate this problem.
There is a very big reason why I am self hosted. I like having control over content, privacy, and how everything looks. Yea Facebook might be free but you don’t provide an easy way to see what you want and then snatch it back and tell someone ‘NO’. Facebook has made something that was relatively easy into a real bitch because they feel pressure from other social networks. And they do it all the freaking time. If you think this latest update is a bitch, wait until the next few because they will never stop making things as difficult as possible. It’s the Facebook way.
So that is the why. What I am doing is looking for an alternative. Whether I find one or not, the page will be closed by Dec 31st. If I do find an alternative that I am happy with, then I will announce that and give it a couple weeks to get those who want to a chance to move. No one should feel like they have to join a new site to keep up with me. You can subscribe to this blog, there is a button on the upper left that lets you choose and there are quite a few choices. If you are enjoying Facebook and don’t want to join a new site, PLEASE DON’T! I understand that all the hard work I have put in will be undone but it’s okay. It’s all a journey and I know I won’t be completely left behind.
I am going to do a separate post in the next day or so with every site that I am on so that if you are already a member, you can come stalk me. I will log in once a day at the fan page to respond to comments and post updates. In the meantime, feel free to use the comments section to whine/praise Facebook or any other social sites